Sixteen years ago right now, I was getting ready for my wedding. I was excited. Not nervous at all. It was a beautiful evening ceremony. The church was decorated with pumpkins and harvest bounty. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday and Autumn is my favorite season. Perfect.
Well, everything has a season, and when the purpose for that season is finished, the energy in that situation shifts, and it's done.
Anyone who has been reading my blog has been with me on these last two years. They have been filled with sadness, rage, despair, hilarity....filled with sad anniversaries, amazing revelations, online dating ups and downs, the loss and shift of many different relationships in my life.
I have a few people in my life right now who are fighting their own battles in their lives. They are frustrated, beaten down, sad, angry....I know those feelings. I have lived those feelings.
....and I made it through to the other side.
It is for those who are fighting those battle whom I write this today. The sun always comes out. There will always, always be storms in our lives - that is the path we have chosen for ourselves before we left that perfect Heaven to come back to Earth. They are how we grow. How we learn. All of our battles and lessons are unique to us, but they all share the common thread of teaching us what we need to know in order to be our very best selves. This is what I have learned so far....
I have learned that it is so important to ask for help....and to accept it when it is given, with grace and gratitude. I have learned, with this amazing help, that all of my feelings - good and bad - are my normal. They are essential for my growth. Be with these feelings people! Sit in them. Acknowledge them for what they are. Denying them only prolongs the agony and the eventual sunshine. Sit with them, but do not let them overstay their welcome.
Far too often, too many of us get a little too comfortable with those bad feelings because the thought of change is too scary. You are only hurting yourself, and sometimes, those who love you. Once you are at a place of calm acknowledgement for whatever you are feeling, it is then time to release it with blessings.
THE SUN ALWAYS, ALWAYS COMES OUT.
I am proof of that.
Do I have my sad days still? Of course I do...I took my marriage vows very seriously. BUT, the growth and learning that I have done since this horrible occurrence has been a gift that has changed my life for the better. I am grateful for every tear, every angry thought, every "why me?", because it has brought me to this moment....and boy, is that sun ever shining.
To my friends - and even those whom I have never met - you WILL make it. You will come through on the other side of this and be stronger, wiser, and more in love with life. I promise you.